By Raquel Salas
Special for El Inmobiliario
Amanda Aguilar wakes up at 5:30 a.m., ready for what promises to be a productive day. After dedicating a few minutes to her spirituality and going for a run, she prepares to wake her children, Amaia, 7, and Axel, 4. However, when she notices that Axel has a fever, her day transforms into a whirlwind of emotions and decisions. This moment reflects the daily struggle of many mothers in the real estate sector, where present motherhood becomes a difficult ideal to achieve. Work demands, such as client appointments and property viewings, often generate a sense of guilt: Are they doing enough at home and at work?
Axel's fever presents not only an immediate challenge but also an opportunity for Amanda to rethink her approach to motherhood and her career. At this critical moment, Amanda realizes she can't attend all her scheduled appointments. With a deep sigh, she decides to reschedule some and delegate others to her assistant and colleagues. This decision not only allows her to care for Axel but also teaches her to prioritize what truly matters. Present-day motherhood isn't a destination but a journey full of ups and downs, where every little moment counts.
Experts suggest that establishing routines and quality time, even brief moments, can make all the difference. Present motherhood isn't just about being physically present, but also about being emotionally available. A family lunch, a bedtime story, or a simple, heartfelt hug can strengthen family bonds, even amidst chaos. Present motherhood involves creating meaningful spaces for connection, where children feel valued and heard.
Furthermore, it is crucial for real estate mothers to surround themselves with a support network. Sharing experiences with other women in the same situation can be a great relief. For example, Amanda has found a safe space among her colleagues to discuss her challenges and successes, which has allowed her to feel less alone on her journey. Collaboration and mutual support are essential for navigating the demands of motherhood and a career. These interactions not only offer comfort but can also provide practical strategies for managing time and responsibilities.
To achieve a balance between being a homemaker and raising children in a close and respectful way, it's important to implement tools and practices that help maximize the quality of time spent with your children. Weekly planning is one such tool; dedicating specific time to family activities, such as games or walks, can make those moments more meaningful. Establishing fixed mealtimes and bedtime routines also helps create a predictable and safe environment for children.
Practicing mindfulness during shared moments is another valuable strategy. This involves being present in the moment, letting go of distractions like your phone or work. A simple breathing exercise before a family activity can help focus attention and foster a deeper connection.
Although I didn't experience motherhood by divine design, my experience in teaching, the experiences of close friends, and my great empathy allow me to understand how challenging it can be. Motherhood, especially in a demanding work environment, requires a delicate balance between responsibilities and moments of connection. Real estate mothers are true architects of dreams, not only for their clients but also for their families. With love, organization, and flexibility, it's possible to be a present and successful mother, and every step on this journey is an opportunity to grow and learn.
The author is a public relations specialist for Mystiq developments, CEO and founder of Positive Refocus and Real Estate Balance, director of the RP Media Group, an integrative coach for personal development, and a motivational speaker certified by John Maxwell Leadership. She is also the director of the "Time To Grow" training program for real estate agents and the author of the books "Before Saying Yes" and "Time for Me.".
